Loving yourself as an introvert
Hello, free butterflies. I hope you are doing very well. the topic that I've chosen today is very important to me and I think you as well. Today I would like to share with you my point of view about introversion and how we can accept and love ourselves as introverts. As introverts, most of us have heard messages about all the things that are wrong with us. We are too intense, too solitary, not fun enough.There is shame involved in being an introvert. As an introvert, I don't move slowly. In fact, I love to dance. I am quick in perceiving and understanding what people say and mean.But these explanations don’t quite cover what it means to be a tortoise how their rhythms are slow and deep, how they enjoy taking in the scenery instead of rushing past, how they need the shell that protects their most vulnerable, precious self. It’s easy for us to get alienated from our own nature because of the extrovert bias in the culture at large. So, how do we reconnect with and start celebrating ourselves? It starts with self-awareness and living our own truths. As opposed to extroverts who turn to other people to recharge and renew themselves. Introverts turn inward and need quiet spaces to recharge. This is why we turn to nature, to prayer, to solitary hobbies. We already know this from our own experience. What we often struggle with is the validity of this preference for time alone. I’ve struggled with this too, thinking that there is something wrong with me if I am not excited about going to a party or socializing at the end of a terrible day. A few years ago I’ve begun to let go of this internal dialogue, by going deeper into my own creativity, writing more, choosing meditation and contemplating, I’ve realized that what I am actually lonely for is a connection with myself. When I’m contemplating sky, for example, I feel present and whole. Engaging in activities that make us happy helps us focus on all that is right with us, instead of wondering whether we are imperfect. Let me give you a concrete example, social conversations can be a challenge for me. I didn’t realize earlier that one of the reasons for this is the difference in the rhythms of how introverts and extroverts communicate.When we are asked a question, introverts usually pause to think about it before replying. We need this space to formulate our answers. This is different from extroverts, who formulate their answers while talking.Because of this difference, when we are silent, extroverts can perceive this as meaning that we have nothing to say and rush in with their own thoughts and while they are talking, we can’t think. This dynamic return introverts mute. For me, understanding this has been extremely important. Instead of getting frustrated that I didn’t get a chance to speak, I’ve started responding differently. By showing the other person that I am still thinking of providing visual cues, I hold my ground better in a conversation. Thinking deeply gives us new insights. It helps us see new relationships between things. The solitude we love is also the springboard for our creativity. It gives us the chance to imagine and re-imagine our world. Aren’t these all amazing things? With all my love.