Softness and leadership

To encounter soft-hearted souls is an intriguing experience that can shake up both your mind and heart. These honest, empathetic, giving, forgiving, pacifist souls usually have an unbelievable inner strength to be able to continue their soft but strong loving ways, in a really tough world. They give limitlessly without seeking appreciation. They have a special smile that inspires hope and spreads joy to people around them.

however why most of the people gave up on these qualities to become overwhelmed with intensity and hardness? Why most of the people look at softness as a weakness and gentleness as a sign of feebleness? Why does it become difficult for us to find a point of balance between these two energies and attitudes of strength and compassion? The speedy running rate of this materialistic and shallow world made it difficult for us to remain the pure pacifist compassionate souls that we used to be in our early childhood. Hence, achievement is being measured in social and academic rank, hours worked or money earned.  And then people are committed to blindly ensuring that achievement, at all cost. They become rigid, greedy and selfish in how they treat all creatures around them and even their own selves.

Softness leads others to the truth and strength helps them to stick to it. Those two qualities are for me the main characteristics of o true leader. When we feel strong in our physical, spiritual, and mental realms we are more able to navigate with clarity and balance, and then we don’t hurt ourselves or others. We accept and receive help.  We are more open to collaboration.  We love others which makes us strong for our network of friends and family and even for our enemies.
The softness is part of us.  It’s our essence.  So turning away from it throws us into an unnatural and unbalanced state. A true leader does not fight the force of the group’s energy but flows and yields and absorbs and let’s go. If he is not like water, the leader would break. “Water is fluid, soft, and yielding. But water will wear away rock, which is rigid and cannot yield. As a rule, whatever is fluid, soft, and yielding will overcome whatever is rigid and hard. This is another paradox: what is soft is strong.” Lao Tzu

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My name is Assia, Nature and its shapes and colors are my ultimate inspiration.
I believe that nothing can fill our emptiness except faith in our creator. I believe that pain and world’s darkness can break you, but this is the only way to be totally and beautifully remade, and then express your thoughts, emotions, intuition, and experiences to the world.

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